Sunday, January 13, 2008

Sibling issues

Yesterday, I totally told off my brother. I was so pissed by his arrogance & ignorance that we just started shouting at each other. Thank god my parents were not at home to witness the argument...

You see, I only have 1 brother and he so happens to be the youngest of the lot. My parents adored him most (tho they keep denying & insist that they are practicing no favortism). He is very2 playful, spends most of his time playing with SECONDARY SCHOOL students after school etc... And to think he is only primary 6 this year. I mean, seriously I don't understand what's up with the sec students. What the hell were they thinking? Digressing...

Anyways, the point is, he totally flopped his end year results and he stayed back a year for his religious class. Reason? He played too much. When the exams neared, his paper was tmr and he only start flipping tonight. When he flucked his exams, surprisingly my parents never scolded him like they used to when I flunged mine during the primary school days... Not only he played too much, whenever he asked my parents for $$, he never got dissappointed. While in a way, I had been trained to live independently, relying most of my other expenses (not school allowance related) by my own hard savings or tuition money. Fyi, I had been giving tuition since sec 2 till now and my parents laterally stopped giving me any allowances after 0 levels. I mean, how much do I really earn at a tuition teacher whose students are from personal contacts asking for discounts hence I'm earning much much lower than the market rate?

Ok, digressing again. Back to my bro. Yesterday, he took this packet of rice which already has dripping gravy at the back of it. I told him that it will dirty the table & told him to take a plate to put the packet on top of it. He insist that it's ok and even ORDERED me to take a plate for him. And that's how it all started...

You see, I have 3 other sisters at home,excluding me. And unfortunately, I am the only "clean" one. I really cannot stand seeing my house get dirty, either by seeing dust or crumbs of leftover foods on the floor. Or seeing the table dirty or the sink filled with piles of unwashed plates and cups. So as a result, I always ended up being the cinderella.

Ever since my mum is currently working part time to finance the family, all the household chores + cleaning up of cats fall on my shoulders. I wouldn't mind doing it all if its during my holidays but when school starts, everything + school load becomes a burden. Nobody is helping doing a single bloody thing. My sisters & brothers are not young kids, mind you. Even my 17 year old sis still eats clumsily and then pretend not seeing her leftover foods on the table and my 14 year old sis still refuse to wash her plates after eating. I often complained to my parents about their behaviour and all they say was: "Aku pun dah penat cakap dgn dia org tapi semua degil". I was like, that's all? So I have to be the cinderella till I officially leave this house?

It gets on my nerves very often. Before I leave the house for school, I need to make sure everything is done, from laundry till feeding the cats. Once I come back from school, I still need to clean whatever mess my siblings made before I finally can relax after a long day in school. If I didn't do anything, like this morning, my mum was asking me why I didn't make syrup drinks after my sis bought them yesterday. I was like, "am I the only one living in this house such that I have to be doing everything by myself?" She just kept quiet.

Seriously, I don't know why I'm ranting. This is the first time I am sharing this "long endless suffering" in public. All this while, only Mr. HHH knows about it. Nobody else did.

If any of my sister or brother happens to be reading this, I am pleading to you. Please do your share. It is so unfair that all of u are denying your own responsibility when we all share the same house. I really don't mind doing it alone during my holidays, frankly I enjoy doing the housework very much. I had been doing it since secondary school days... I'm not asking for any gratitude. All I'm asking for is your appreciation. I can be doing all of it, but please search your conscious. If you had just thought of, "Hey, my sis has been doing the housework, and she just came back from school & she must be tired, maybe I should at least eat properly so that the house will not get dirty."

That's all I'm asking...'

To my parents, either they see me as a very responsible figure or they don't love me as much... What's your take?

Sometimes I really have no clue....

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